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so i was looking up stuff about birth control throughout history and
Hahahahaha.
This is totally a metaphor for womanhood in general at times.
(via meredithbklyn)
There are a lot of misconceptions you have to deal with when you’re childfree by choice, but No. 1 is the notion that you’re going to change your mind. When I was 15 and said I didn’t want kids, people told me I’d change my mind by 18. When I was 18, they said 21. When I was 21, they said 25. I’m 30 now, and my mind’s still pretty damn made up. It’s fine for teenage girls to have babies on national television and be praised for making a ‘responsible’ choice (hey there, almost every episode of 16 and Pregnant), but a woman who realizes in her teens that motherhood isn’t for her will always be told to wait a couple of years and wait until she meets the right guy and her biological clock goes off.
AMEN.
If anything, having a dog has reiterated this.
(Although every time I make a bold statement, I’m like, am I going to be 38 and laughing at my naivety while checking tumblr once a month because I somehow have twins and a newborn?)
Apparently Taylor Armstrong from RHOBH may move to Vail, Colorado, to live with her new(ish) boyfriend. They’re happy and in love, and yadda yadda yadda.
Why do I care about this?
The boyfriend in question was married when they met. Married and has children. This isn’t the first time I’ve heard the village of Vail and cheating in the same breath. Apparently it’s a boys’ trip playground, where married men often choose to ignore their vows in favor of some apres ski action.
I am a firm believer that you cannot steal a man. A man has free will. It is ultimately up to the guy that promised to be monogamous to STAY monogamous. And sure, not every love connection starts clean - you might meet a guy while he’s in a relationship, you like him, he likes you, and that’s the catalyst for his breakup and your eventual relationship. Or you meet a guy who rocks your world while married. It happens!
But if you meet a guy, and he tells you he’s married or has a girlfriend, you DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM. You do not make out with him. You do not make overtly sexual comments. You do not touch him inappropriately. And if he attempts any of the above, you rebuke his advances and shut that shit down.
When a friend tells me, “I’m not the one who is married - that’s his problem. And his wife’s,” I want to revoke her lady card. It IS your problem. You are choosing to insert yourself into a situation where promises were made. You are choosing to help someone break promises, to lie, and to mistreat.
Sure, you’ll argue that someone else might say yes.
Be the one that says no.
What in the what in the what and the why and the sdkfjsldjfskldjfsd:
It’s not a matter of competency. It’s a matter of attitudes. Even in 2013, society and the media still treat women much worse than men.
Who’s fault is this? Men are certainly to blame. But… let’s not let the women get off so easy. They’re responsible too.Look, most grown men are still 12-year-old boys inside. Most men still expect their working spouse to assume responsibility for the household chores. Most men turn immediately to their wives when their kid has the sniffles (“you don’t expect ME to miss work, do you?”). Most men put a pillow over their heads when the baby starts crying at night, expecting mom (who has to also get up in the morning) to deal with the issue. Most men raise their eyebrows and give each other a nudge when a good-looking girl appears at a meeting. We check out the way they’re dressed. We’re shocked (still) when they make off-color jokes. Oh it’s all fine for us… but my goodness, she seemed like such a nice girl! And most men still don’t feel comfortable golfing and drinking with their female colleagues because we can’t make jokes about sex and farting.
… And unfortunately, those are the guys still running many a company nowadays. And big cities too. Don’t believe me? Ask New York’s Mayor Bloomberg! Welcome to reality, ladies.
But before you nod in violent agreement please know: you’ve created this problem too. Because sometimes we are forced to discriminate, even when it goes against our business principles. That’s what Sandberg is getting at. I am not embarrassed to say that when I interview a young woman my first thought is “what happens when/if she gets pregnant?” This is a legitimate business question. Right or wrong, the fact is that men delegate mothering to women. And most women (thank God) want that job too — it’s natural.
Someone find me the right gif to express a literal meltdown. I feel bad for adult men who are actually being adult men and get lumped into this garbage. I also feel super bad for us ladies.
This is my week. (my life..?)
(via janambm)
“Even among extraordinarily ambitious and successful workers of both genders, Catalyst research found a gap. They followed full-time workers who didn’t take breaks for education or family reasons or self employment. The mommy-trackers were left out. But the gap didn’t go away: Twice as many of the most proactive men advanced to a senior executive level as similar women. The report concludes, ‘[W]hen women used the same career advancement strategies as men, they advanced less.’”
Women showed up to vote. They showed up early and they showed up strong.
And not only that — women *my age* showed up to vote today.
Our great grandmothers fought for the right to vote.
Our grandmothers fought for the right to work outside the home.
Our mothers fought for the right to be treated with respect.
Don’t pick a fight with us.
(via simplerightwords)
“When it comes to women’s health, men as well as women need to pay attention. Just as civil rights wasn’t just a “black issue,” women’s rights and reproductive health shouldn’t be reduced to a “women’s issue.”
….Mitt Romney is no moderate. On the contrary, he is considerably more extreme than President George W. Bush was…
The most toxic issue is abortion, and what matters most for that is Supreme Court appointments. The oldest justice is Ruth Bader Ginsburg, a 79-year-old liberal, and if she were replaced by a younger Antonin Scalia, the balance might shift on many issues, including abortion.
One result might be the overturning of Roe v. Wade, which for nearly four decades has guaranteed abortion rights. If it is overturned, abortion will be left to the states — and in Mississippi or Kansas, women might end up being arrested for obtaining abortions…
If politicians want to reduce the number of abortions, they should promote family planning and comprehensive sex education. After all, about half of all pregnancies in the United States are unintended, according to the Guttmacher Institute, which conducts research on reproductive health.
Yet Romney seems determined to curb access to contraceptives. His campaign Web site says he would “eliminate Title X family planning funding,” a program created in large part by two Republicans, George H. W. Bush and Richard Nixon.
Romney has boasted that he would cut off all money for Planned Parenthood — even though federal assistance for the organization has nothing to do with abortions. It pays for such things as screenings to reduce breast cancer and cervical cancer.
Romney’s suspicion of contraception goes way back. As governor of Massachusetts, he vetoed a bill that would have given women who were raped access to emergency contraception.
Romney also wants to reinstate the “global gag rule,” which barred family planning money from going to aid organizations that even provided information about abortion. He would cut off money for the United Nations Population Fund, whose work I’ve seen in many countries — supporting contraception, repairing obstetric fistulas, and fighting to save the lives of women dying in childbirth.
So when you hear people scoff that there’s no real difference between Obama and Romney, don’t believe them.
And it’s not just women who should be offended at the prospect of a major step backward. It’s all of us.
